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Absence

How dear is my absence from you going to cost me? How tedious will the hours seem?

This signifies precicely, "If I was always with you, my stock of fine speeches would be soon exhausted: I should have nothing new to say to you: when I see you again, you will like me the better."

Some rhyming fools are fond of the occasion of complaining, in lamentable verse, of the tortures they suffer by absence; which is, however, only a handle of shewing their wit, at the grievous expence of truth and reason, which they martyrize in the stale, trite hyperboles of hours being months, months years, and years whole ages, in their kalendar: of their being kept alive only by the hopes of feeling what they love again. These strains are proof of the real absence of common sense.


Variant spelling:
rhyming | rhiming A Dictionary of Love (1787)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Affliction, Afflict

By these words is commonly understood the effect upon our mind of some disagreeable object. It is only in the mouth, or letters of a lover, that they have little or no meaning.


Omitted text:
Afflict
A Dictionary of Love (1795)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Agitation, Emotion

Sentiments excited by the sight or conversation of a person one loves. There are amorous, anxious, pleasing, timid agitations, which have all their different expressions, by looks, sighs, blushes, &c. but few are more significant than that of the fan, masterly managed.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Anxiety

Is a symptom inseparable from the love-sick.

I am under a mortal anxiety,” is a phrase, of course, with which one seeks to give a pretended passion all the colours of truth: for a real one never goes without it.

The loyal subjects to the empire of love every pay their tribute of anxiety. Sometimes it consists in the fear of not triumphing openly over a rival; sometimes in the uncertainty of gaining one's point. The Fair precaution themselves against indiscretions; they endeavor to snap a heart from their best female friend; they want to keep a train of lovers, or augment it without losing any by discontent: others are busied in preserving a reputation to which they have no right. All these aims are not without their respective anxieties for the success: and yet these anxieties are preferable with them to a dull insipid state of indifference, which composes to them a frightful void.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Ardor, Love

Is a synonymous term to love, commonly employed to avoid tautology, or raise a climax. Your sayers of fine things are very fond of this term; which, however, is very much descended into subaltern gallantry.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Assiduities

Do you reckon my assiduities for nothing? Means, Have not all my trifling and dangling after you convinced you of my passion? Have not I gone through the usual course of preliminaries? Have not I handed you into the boxes? squired you to the gardens? picked up your glove when you dropped it on purpose? gallanted your fan? and, in short, played over all the monkey tricks of a led-lover?


Modified text:
picked up your glove when you dropped it on purpose? picked up your glove when you dropped it on purpose ? A Dictionary of Love (1777)

Modified text:
and, in short, played over all the little tricks of a captivated lover?
A Dictionary of Love (1777)
A Dictionary of Love (1795)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Attractions

A flattering term, and of great use to advance one's affairs: for, however versed a fine lady may be in the science of the love-language, it is hard for her to conceive, that, when applied to herself, it may not signify, as formerly it did, an assemblage of charms and perfections that constitutes a beauty. Thus, when a lover whines out, No! it is impossible to resist such attractions: This phrase, duly construed, imports, “If all the soft trash I have expended upon you is not yet able to touch you, I have a reserve-lunge, which you will, with all your cunning, be hardly able to parry; and this is it:— Then, attractions, charms, inchanting beauty, are let fly in a volley, and never fail of doing wonderful execution.


Variant spelling:
inchanting enchanting A Dictionary of Love (1777)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Barbarous

A Word of a great sound, and little meaning; used to express the discontent of a lover. How barbarous you are! signifies, “You surprize me; I did not expect such a long resistance: my pride begins to murmur at it.”


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Billet-doux

See Love-letters


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

To Blame

Though a lover seems to be an animal born for nothing but approving, he may sometimes take the liberty to blame her for her cruelty. The meaning of which is, that though his mistress may have great merit, he on his side has his share; and that she is very much in the wrong to hold out against it.


Modified text:
and that she is very much in the wrong not to remember it
A Dictionary of Love (1777)
A Dictionary of Love (1795)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Boldness

Excuse my boldness: This, when said in the instant of snatching small favours, means, “I am sounding the channel, to see how you will take small liberties: if you excuse this, I shall have room, I hope, to proceed to greater.”

There are few women who would not sooner forgive an excess of boldness, than an excess of timidity


Added text:
There are few women who would not sooner forgive an excess of boldness∗, than an excess of timidity. (∗Let every young girl judge well, however, of the nature of that boldness which she is said to be so ready to forgive)
A Dictionary of Love (1777)
A Dictionary of Love (1795)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Bracelet

In times of yore, a lover was in heaven, if he could obtain a bracelet of his mistress's hair. An Infanta never granted her Knight this favor, till he had cleaved half a dozen giants in two, and killed as many dragons. Those times are over. At present, Love is a carpet road, in which the journey is performed much quicker, and without those dangers of broken bones.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

To Brisk an Attack

There are occasions in which this method succeeds, when fear and awe are ridiculous; as every thing is that is mis-timed or mis-placed.

Machiavel, the prince of politicians, gives the lover a cue in his lesson to them. “It is better, says he, to sin through too much vivacity, than too much timidity: Fortune is a woman, and requires a brisk attack. She grants victory oftener to rash, impetuous characters, than to the cold and circumspect. Hence it is, that this goddess, like women, (N.B. His whole comparison turns upon this principle) is more favourable to the young, because they have more fire, and daring, than those of a more advanced age.”

It is also generally kindly taken by the women, that a man should afford them the excuse of saying, “I could not help it. I was surprized.” Thus, a well-timed agreeable violence may save at once their honour and their delicacy.

The Fair will forgive the detail of these maxims, for the sake of the instruction they convey of their danger, that they may avoid the application.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Burn

An obsolete metaphor, formerly used to express the violence of one's desires. I burn for you, has now an ill grace even in poetry: and as to any meaning, it is scarce of more significance than talking to a woman of the weather, or the like.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

But

BUT if this should be known. BUT if you should be unconstant. All these Buts are nothing less than invincible objections. She has already surrendered, who makes any doubt about her surrendering.

The woman that deliberates is lost.


Added text:
∗The woman who deliberates is lost. (∗ A very important truth.
A Dictionary of Love (1777)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Caprice, Whim, Inconstancy, Unaccountable Procedure

Fashion, taste, and women, are generally under the mis-rule of this fantastic power. Some beauties, indeed, employ it politically in love, to attach their lover the stronger, by shewing him, that if he does not employ all his attention to keep her fixed, she may give him the slip, before he is aware of a reason for it.

It is only for the young and handsome to dare to be capricious. That is forgiven to them, for which those who want those titles to play the fool, can only expect ridicule and contempt.


Omitted text:
It is only for the young and handsome to dare to be capricious. That is forgiven to them, for which those who want those titles to play the fool, can only expect ridicule and contempt.
A Dictionary of Love (1777)
A Dictionary of Love (1795)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Chains

A poetical word. My heart can never break your chains, means no more, than that, “I shall always love you.”

In the mouth of a young fellow to an old lady dowager, I cannot break my chains, the English of it is, “I am not such a fool as to break my bank.”

It is good policy sometimes in a woman to relax and extend the chains of her lover; the more she will secure her captive. He would snap too short a chain, who would never dream of breaking a sufficiently long one.


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In the mouth of a young fellow to an old lady dowager, I cannot break my chains, the English of it is, “I am not such a fool as to break my bank.”
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A Dictionary of Love (1795)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Charms

An harmonious word, rather hackneyed; indifferently lavished; and signifies no more than attractions.

The solid, substantial charms, in these times, are those in Lombard-street; or, to use Sir Tunbelly's phrase, those which are stitched to the charmer's tail, whether bags, bills, bonds, parchments, &c.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Confession

How long will you make me languish for a confession that you love me? This, to a coquette, signifies, “I have, methinks, gone through all the forms which usually bring matters to a conclusion: I have fooled away time enough about you: I being to be tired, and want to be at a point.”

To a novice, it means, “I see my happiness hangs but on a thread of modesty, ready to snap: you are reduced; and all I want of you is to tell me so, that we may lose no more time.”


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Confidence

Communication of Thoughts, and Secrets in Love.

Confidents are perhaps as necessary, in this passion, as those led-captains, the confidents, in a tragedy. Vanity, impatience of a secret, and sometimes convenience, dispose the heart to openness, and are often inevitable snares to the most wary and reserved. Confidence is often a seasoning the more to a true love-passion.

A confidante-maid, who does not abuse her mistress's confidence, is a miracle for rarity.


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Additional text: A confidante-maid, who does not abuse her mistress's confidence, is a miracle for rarity∗. (∗ An important hint to young women not to have any female confident in love affairs
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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Constancy

According to the most expert judges of gallantry, is a chimæra, a phantom; sounds well in verse, and figures prettily enough in a declaration of love. But those who know any thing of the value of terms in this language, lay no great stress upon it. A mistress, who talks of constancy to a lover, intimates that she is on the point of surrender; and this a word in course of capitulation. It is then a lover may risk every thing, or rather risk nothing. Safe is the word.

Constancy too is often only another word for indolence; and a man sticks to his old mistress, to avoid the trouble and risk of changing; as some stay in the country, where they have been tired all their lives, purely out of aversion to the fatigue and embarrassment of coming to town.


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…lay no great stress upon it. A mistress, who talks of constancy to a lover, intimates that she is on the point of surrender; and this a word in course of capitulation. It is then a lover may risk every thing, or rather risk nothing. Safe is the word.
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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Conversation

In love, has a more extensive signification than it seems to have; not that by conversation must be understood that time lost, in which wit evaporates in long dissertations upon esteem, delicacy, respect, and splitting of hairs upon sentiments. Even romances are purged from these conversations, that rendered them so long and so tedious. All lovers have now the same way of thinking as the princess Isenghuion, a Spanish lady, who reading the discourses of two of these romantic lovers, said, To what purpose all this stuff, when they are alone? In short, conversation now oftenest signifies, the disclosure towards the end of the last act. There is nothing more dangerous than these moments of conversation.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Countenance

A gay, smiling one, in a coquette, signifies encouragement: that she would be glad to list as many lovers as possible: that she would wish to see the men sacrifice her best friends to her; and that she keeps open a refuge for all deserters. That nothing but joy and mirth are to be found in her service; and that not to be in love with her, is to be one's own enemy, and defrauding one's self of the pleasures of gaiety and unreserve.

A cold, serious countenance, in a mistress is an admirable expedient, when artfully employed. It leads to every thing, either a reconciliation or a rupture, just as she shall see fit. After a quarrel, it signifies that she will keep up the dignity of her sex, and give herself the pleasure of hearing her lover make new protestations. If this does not succeed, she may put on a tender countenance: but in this, the occasion, the humour of her lover, or her own passion, generally determines the difference.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Critical Minute

These minutes are not less decisive in love than in war; and in both it is of the greatest importance to seize them: once missed, they seldom return.

In the mouth of a lover, who understands the love-language, Is there no seeing you for a minute? signifies, “Am I never to obtain one of those delicious quarters of an hour in which love gets uppermost, when reason leave the field to it, and virtue takes a nap? Shall I never hear the critical minute strike?”


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Cruelty

This expression does not so much signify the insensibility of a mistress, as the impatience of a lover.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Cruel

See Barbarous

Some of these cruel women resemble the nymphs in Ausonius, who set out with threatening Cupid to put him to death with the severest tortures, and soften their cruelty so far as only to whip him with roses.


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See Barbarous
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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

To Cure

I hope you will cure the wounds you have made; a hackney'd phrase, and means, “You have raised desires which I expect you have too much good-nature to disappoint, and that you will restore me to the quiet you have destroyed, tho' it should be at the expence of your own.”


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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Curiosity

A desire of knowing whether one's wife or mistress is true to one. It is never a happy one. The author of Don Quixot has there inserted a novel, called, The curious impertinent, in confirmation of this assertion. He compares women in it to a glass, which no wise man will dash against the pavement to see whether it will break or not. Have you any doubts of a woman's faith, never seek to satisfy them; the least it will cost your, is the repentance of your curiosity. It is wakeing the sleeping lion: a woman may resent an unjust suspicion, and revenge it by giving it a foundation in fact. Distrust absolves faith.


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It is wakeing the sleeping lion: a woman may resent an unjust suspicion, and revenge it by giving it a foundation in fact. Distrust absolves faith.
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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Dalliance

See Toying


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Death

This word is ever to be understood metaphorically, and carries no sort of terror with it. It is even so staled, that it now goes for nothing.

The death of a lover is so much in course, that it is as inevitable as in nature: for if the fair is kind, he is to die with joy; if otherwise, of grief: and both equally.

Your cruelty will make me die; signifies, “I have employ'd flames, darts, despair, &c. to persuade you: and now have nothing left by death to pin the basket.”

A living death I die.

Do you wish to see me die? may also mean figuratively, “Do you wish that the lover in should die to you? I am weary of spending so much nonsense, and advancing so little: there are other women in the world. If you do not capitulate soon, I must raise the siege.”


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A living death I die. Do you wish to see me die? may also mean figuratively, “Do you wish that the lover in should die to you? I am weary of spending so much nonsense, and advancing so little: there are other women in the world. If you do not capitulate soon, I must faise the siege.”
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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

To Deceive

You deceive me; in a lady's mouth, one would imagine, signifies, “I know you deceive me”, and only means to exact assurances to the contrary.

You say you love me, but I do not know how to trust you; I am afraid you deceive me. This is as much as to say, “I believe you but too much: but it is the custom, in such cases, to make objections: a conquest would appear too easy without them: let me have then some ardent protestations: turn my head: deceive me. I desire no better. I do not want to examine too scrupulously into the credit due to you: I wish your sincerity too much to plague myself with the doubt of it: all I want is the excuse of your vows and assurances, if but for form-sake.”

There are two powerful reasons for this interpretation.


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Declaration of Love

A word that wants little or no definition. There are several sorts of declarations, and differently made by word of mouth; by writing, in verse or in prose. But where nothing is more intended than an occasional scheme of pleasure, there is none of more efficacy, or more compendious, than a purse, a bank bill or a settlement.

It happens sometimes, that a lady not thoroughly versed in the love-language, and the value of its terms, may mistake, for a declaration, what is no more than a compliment, especially from a man she likes. Prudes, and women not so handsome as one would wish, are apt to fall into this error; and are not always extremely pleased to find it one.


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Additional text: ∗Prudes, and women not so handsome as one would wish… (∗ A mistake not at all uncommon)
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A Dictionary of Love (1795)


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Defence

There are several sorts of defences against the attacks of a lover. A cool, disdainful one is the best: a passionate one can only awe a novice; and rather emboldens an experienced engineer, who then proceeds safely upon that maxim, that so much emotion supposes heat; and that no man will ever be thoroughly well with his mistress, till he has done something to make her angry with him.

The weak defence of a fair-one who resists faintly, and coys it attractingly, is such a plain cue to a lover, that not to laugh at her resistance, would be insulting her, and deserving its conversion into a real one.

Too much depending on a future defence, has often ruinously led women into the danger of not dreading the attack. They flatter themselves with having sufficient forces to repel any bold invasion, never considering that reason is often a treacherous pilot, that deserts his charge in the midst of its danger; and that when one feels the want of a defence, it is often too late to begin it.


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Additional text: …and that when one feels the want of a defence, it is often too late to begin it∗. (∗Not more frequent than true.)
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Delicacy

I love you with delicacy. There is no positive, determinate sense for this phrase: it probably signifies no more than the art of employing a word of a pretty sound that flatters the ear.

This expression is sometimes used to elude, or parry a hint of marriage. Thus, “I have too much delicacy to draw you headlong into an engagement, till things are better settled: it would be making you unhappy.” The English of this is, that the sly dealer knows very well, that gaining time is gaining every thing: that this is a plausible excuse for a delay, from which he proposes, without alarming her caution, to accomplish his ends: and this retrenchment behind his imaginary delicacy, means only that he is very willing to make her his mistress, but very loath to make her his wife.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Despair

Driving to despair, formerly signified reducing a person to the last extremity, sending him to hang or drown himself. It has now no such terrible signification.

You drive me to despair, in the mouth of a lover, signifies simply, “things do not go on so smooth as I could wish; since I must despair of obtaining any thing to day, I must adjourn my operations to a better season; and, in the mean time, go and amuse my time elsewhere as agreeably as I may.”


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“…and amuse my time elsewhere as agreeably as I can
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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Distraction

I love you to distraction; signifies about as much as the superlative employed in concluding a letter: that is to say, nothing at all.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Eloquence

All the great passions are dumb, and yet most lovers are eloquent; whence it may be concluded, that eloquence is not the art of loving, but of saying moving things. A lover then who says fine things is rarely a true one. A disorder of language is one of its greatest marks. One of our poets justly shews it, in a line often quoted,

In short, lovers really struck, resemble in some sort infants, who are not capable of expressing their wants, but by signs, and inarticulate expressions.


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Empire

“You have a perfect empire over me” These expressions in love are of the nature of the false humility of those politicians, who pave their way to the sovereign power, by airs of submission and lowliness; and act the slaves, that they may become the tyrants of the people, whom they have flattered out their fears

“I expect an absolute empire over my lover”, in the mouth of the Fair, signifies, “If he would please me, he must commit the most glaring follies; sacrifice to me, honour, reason, reputation, fortune.”

The more unreasonable her caprices are, the more strongly does she exact a compliance with them, and draws her greatest vanity from her lover's shame. These modern Omphales are not an uncommon characters; especially where a kept mistress has found a cully weak enough to be ridden so.


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. These modern Omphales are not an uncommon characters; especially where a kept mistress has found a cully weak enough to be ridden so.
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A Dictionary of Love (1795)


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Esteem

I esteem you. This expression in the mouth of a young person only means, that she wants a little boldness, to say in downright terms that she loves you.

In the mouth of a coquette it signifies, that she has a mind to play reserve upon you, and impose sentimental delicacy on you.

In certain circumstances, I esteem you, is a salving phrase, and is as much as to say, “You distress me: I do not know how to come off with you: To tell you plainly, that I hate you, would be too much against all the laws of politeness.”

A young man, who tells a disagreeable prude, or a woman on the decline, that he esteems her, means, that she is a fool to entertain any pretensions to his heart; and that he does not esteem her enough to have the complaisance of telling her that he loves her.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Eternal

There is no eternity in any sublunary thing, and least of all in love.

I will love you eternally: My flame will be eternal. Ridiculous phrases! which signify, “My passion will last as long as it will last.”

Note, that in the Love-kalendar, as moments are sometimes years, and years ages, it happens too, that ages become years, and years moments: thus, It is an eternity since I saw you, sometimes means, “I have not seen you these two days:” and “My love will be eternal,” often signifies, “It will last two days.”

Hyperboles are the familiar language of lovers, who are always in extremes; and too often “in extremes by change more fierce.”


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Exclaims

These are amorous interjections, designed for marks of a violent desire of persuading what one does not feel. They also serve to fill up, whilst one is recovering breath from a long period; and when a lover has nothing better to say; or is got out of his depth.

Oh! how cruel you are ! How unjust! This means, “Why do not you believe me? I have done every thing toward persuading you, that a gentle lover should: I have talked: I have sighed: I have been for this hour heaping lies upon lies, till I am at the end of my part.” Besides, these breaks have great power and effect; as they express a disorder that always flatters the woman, who thinks herself the cause of it.


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Exclamations
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These are amorous interjections…
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Faithful

A faithful lover is a character greatly out of date, and rarely now used but to adorn some romantic novel, or for a flourish on the stage. He passes now for a man of little merit, or one who knows nothing of the world.

By faithfulness, then, is to be understood a firm resolution of reducing an obstinate fair-one: and by a faithful lover, one who has not yet gained his point. The last favours are the extreme unction to love, which rarely or never survives their administration.


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A faithful lover, we are sorry to say, is a character greatly out of date…
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…and by a faithful lover, one who has not yet gained his point The last favours are the extreme unction to love, which rarely or never survives their administration.
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Forsake, Quit, Leave, Desert, Cast off

This word is almost always joined to a negation, which, for enforcement-sake, is generally accompanied with an oath.

No! madam; never will I forsake you. May heaven forsake me, if I do. This, at the first view, seems to signify, that one prefers the beloved object to one's life: but use teaches us that you should at least suppose to be understood such conditions as follows: “If you have always the same charms in my eyes: If I see no other beauty that pleases me better;” And the like.

Sometimes this term is employed, in the style of a half-pique, to re-animate a languishing passion: Well, cruel, since you drive me from you, since you force me to forsake you, it must be so.

A lover who knows how to say this with a tender air, and if he can squeeze out a few tears, so much the better; will advance his affairs notably: though the English of it is:

“The fear of losing a lover may make you give me some encouragement: if I leave you, it will diminish your train: think of that.”

It is, in short, a hint, that, dropped with art, and well-timed, rarely fails of its effect.

In the mouth of one's mistress, when she says, Faithless wretch! And can you forsake me then? It is as much as to say, “Am I then to have the pain of seeing another possess what I thought my own? What will the world say? Why, that I had not charms enough to fix Silvio, who adores Lucinda: they are every day together: he handed her yesterday into the side-box: they danced together at the last ball. Gods! this is not to be borne.”

Such a thought is enough to turn a woman's head, when it is once possessed with so cruel an idea; and will make her say a thousand impertinences, and commit a thousand more, that will fix the terrible term of forsaken upon her.


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And the like. Sometimes this term is employed, in the style of a half-pique, to re-animate a languishing passion: Well, cruel, since you drive me from you, since you force me to forsake you, it must be so.
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A Dictionary of Love (1795)


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Gold

Love by tipping all its darts with this metal, bids fair for universal monarchy. Nothing resists it, where the quantity is proportioned to the conquest in view. It opens the door of every strong-hold, even to that of the most presumed impregnable virtues. Even a woman fortune-hunter is now no uncommon character.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Grant

The signification of this word is restrained, or extended, according to the occasions, and the person who employs it.

At least, madam, grant me… means in petto, “There is no coming to my point but by degrees. Neglecting one step may set one back twenty: this slight favour I now sue for will bring on others. My play is to disguise the danger. I petition now, that I may get into a condition of giving laws hereafter.”

A lover resembles Sinon, the introducer of the Trojan horse: he puts on the air of a captive: an humble wretch who fears death, makes a moving speech: the enemy relents, pities his complaint, unties his hands, and grants, what not? Then, if he has but a lucky impudence to assist his treachery, the town before it is aware of its danger, admits the insidious conqueror, that will surprize it, whilst all its guards are asleep.


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To Grant
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Gratis

A word long exploded, out of the dictionary of love. Nothing for nothing is now the grand maxim in love as well as in politics.

To love gratis, is to love without return, which need happen to none but those unfortunate, who have not at command the eloquence of a rich Jew, or stock-jobber.


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Happy

Term employed in different senses, and may be figuratively understood. Why will you not make me happy? This phrase, justly construed, not seldom signifies, “Why are you prudent enough not to make yourself unhappy, by believing me?”

How happy am I, now you tell me you love me? means,“You rid me of a great deal of plague I have had to bring you to my point: I have no further occasion for all the drudgery of courtship; you have happily relieved me: and I am henceforward to be on the free and easy footing with you.”


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To Hate

Is never understood in a literal sense, but when employed against the ugly and old. In general it is construed in a contrary sense.

A mistress, from whom a favour is extorted by an agreeable violence, whilst she faintly resists, says, Pray, let me alone, I hate you mortally:— This signifies, “Your boldness is far from displeasing me; you may even venture it as far as it will go.”

Can you hate me then? means, “I want to give myself the pleasure of hearing an assurance to the contrary, or of perplexing you, — or of seeing how prettily you can turn a declaration of love.”

I know you hate me; in the mouth of a coxcomb, signifies, “I defy you, for the soul of you, to be otherwise than violently in love with such a pretty fellow as I am.”


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A mistress, from whom a favour is extorted by an agreeable violence, whilst she faintly resists, says, Pray, let me alone, I hate you mortally: — This signifies, “Your boldness is far from displeasing me; you may even venture it as far as it will go.”

Can you hate me then? means, “I want to give myself the pleasure of hearing an assurance to the contrary, or of perplexing you,— or of seeing how prettily you can turn a declaration of love.”


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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Hatred

Where there has been true love, has a very figurative signification. Transports of love have been often mistaken for transports of hatred. It is even often the expression of the most lively tenderness, By hatred then is often to be understood the emotions of a heard fond to distraction, breathing a revenge seldom in its inclination, and never in its power. A declaration of hatred is in women who have loved, never but a declaration of love: when they really do hate, indifference and silence are the genuine signs of it.


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Haughtiness

In the fair, signifies the art of dissembling, and the secret of rendering a lover submissive. The women rarely employ it against those who do not care a farthing for it. It is likewise often used in public as a disguise for great humility in private.


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Honour

In women, consists essentially in their chastity; nor has it so faithful a guardian as true love. A lover who deserves that name, so far from attempting to destroy it, becomes, even for his own sake, the protector of it. A regard to it is the true test of a real passion. Every design against it, the instant it is penetrated, is a certain sign of falshood, and unmasks the pretender to love, who thenceforward should be considered and treated as a capital enemy; a way-layer in ambush to rob one of the richest jewel a woman can possess. If she neglects so fair a warning as the first discover affords her, to stand on her guard, her loss should be on her own head. She will but with a very ill grace complain of a man's wronging her honour, when she herself has been false to it. No woman worth pitying was ever so suddenly surprized our of it, as not to have had sufficient notice of her danger; and she who has not dreaded it in time, may be supposed to have loved her fall.


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She will with an ill grace complain of a man's despoiling of her honour…
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No woman worth pitying was ever so suddenly surprized our of it, as not to have had sufficient notice of her danger;and she who has not dreaded it in time, may be supposed to have had very little regard to her own virtue
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Importunity

Rhimes [sic] with great propriety to opportunity; and well manage in concert with that, rarely fails of success.

In love, as in other sollicitations, importunity has often carried what has been denied to every other consideration.


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Interest

Women in general are so persuaded, that interest in love supposes a thorough meanness of heart, that the most mercenary fair-one covers the deformity of this vice with all the flowers of the love-rhetoric. It is especially when she receives presents, that she makes a parade of all the finest sentiments against interestedness: but, whatever they may say, the conduct of the sex in general proves the falsity of their protestations in this point. Interest is the strongest battery that can be employed in the love-sieges, and generally makes a breach by weight of metal. Jupiter changed into a golden shower, and penetrating into the tower of Danaë, as hackneyed as the fable is, furnishes very just and solid reflexions. Interest, if never the key of the heart, is the key of every thing else: and the generality of lovers are fools enough to wink hard at the motive in favour of their pleasure; or mean enough to accept it, on terms that cannot be spurned with half the contempt they deserve.


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Jealousy

An innate passion, composed of envy of another's good, of vanity fond of preference, and the fear of losing the object beloved.

Where envy predominates, a lover will stick to a mistress for whom he feels little or no passion, purely to prevent another's having her. Where this is the case, the fair are not in the wrong to re-enliven the languishing decaying passion of a lover, by inspiring him with a proper dose of jealousy.

Where vanity is the ruling ingredient of it, jealousy subsists no longer than that its nourishment, and the love which gave birth to it, dies with it.

Where the fear of losing one's mistress is the principal constituent of it, and that fear arises from a modest diffidence of one's merit, it is the delicatest, and not the commonest proof of love; and as such, the cruelty would be to abuse it.

In women, it is often founded on a motive too coarse for them to own, though perfectly understood; and which therefore is highly their interest to dissemble. Jealousy has often, like fear, provoked, and brought on the evil, of which it suggests the apprehension, and realized an imaginary grievance. A lover desires no better game than the wife of a jealous husband, whose suspicions have perhaps first started the hint, and absolve her of her breach of faith, according to the loose modern casuistry.


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Jealousy∗ (∗If you would see this passion properly ridiculed, read the Comedy of Every Man in his Humour— The character of Kitely is highly finished.)
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…purely to prevent another's having her. Where this is the case, the fair are not in the wrong to re-enliven the languishing decaying passion of a lover, by inspiring him with a proper dose of jealousy.
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Where the fear of losing one’s mistress is the principal constituent of it, and that fear arises from a modest diffidence of one’s merit, it is the delicatest, and not the commonest proof of love; and as such, the cruelty would be to abuse it.
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To Jest

When at a Tête-à-tête, a lady says, with a certain air, I do not like this jesting; it signifies, “Every thing declares in your favour; even this little coyness is but a signal of your victory.”

Other more learned interpreters pretend with more boldness and probability, that these words mean, “This is no time for jesting: I should like better you was in earnest.” And that it is using a lady very ill not to take it in that sense.

Some make love only by way of jest, but this is inhuman sport: they may as well commit murther [sic] in jest.


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Kneeling

Women are not absolutely in the wrong to take themselves for little divinities, when they see this tribute of adoration paid them. And they are the only sublunary beings to whom it may be paid without humiliation.

It is a posture, however, that ought to put them on their guard; for it is a devilish favourable one to the enterprizes of a lover. It is an attitude invented to prove respect, and which is often very commodious for the breaking it


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Languish

Is a term of great significance in heroic love: it is the delicate effect of a pure flame, that consumes one agreeably: it is a dear and tender love-sickness, that makes one hate the thought of a cure, and secretly nourishes the disease at the bottom of the heart: and when it ventures a discovery of itself, the eyes, silence, a sigh that escapes one, involuntary tears, express it more pathetically than all the eloquence of words.

The reign of these heroic passions is pretty well over. The Celadons, and the Philanders, are now only to be found in soft pastorals, or pure and silly romances. To languish then has no longer the same signification that it has in Astrea, or in the mouth of a Cyrus, or Oroondates. At present it means a state of stupidity, or ignorance of the means of succeeding; as when a money'd cit addresses a fine lady, without bethinking himself of putting his hand to his purse; or a soft fop gives himself the air of languishing metaphorically, and ogles amorously a gay coquette, who laughs at his white hand, and his slimy figure.


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Lease of Love

A Love-Engagement.

Unfortunately, Love, being as it is painted, ever a child, is ever a minor: so that, how strongly worded soever may be his bonds, or contracts of lease, he is always at liberty to plead non-age, and be relieved from them; and rare it is, indeed, that he does not make use of his privilege. Those leases then only serve to throw dust in the eyes of those who are glad at any rate to take them for valid, that they may have at least some excuse.

With those beauties, who let their charms out at so much for a time certain, a lease of Love is generally transacted by note of hand, or other good security.


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Leave

Leave me; pray leave me: In certain situations, and in the mouth of a mistress to an urgent lover, are terribly critical words, that imply an imminent surrender at discretion. Every pulse is then beating the dead-march of her virtue; and they are such tender deprecations of his taking the advantage of her confessed weakness, that he would be cruel indeed to take her at her word, and leave her.


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Level

Love levels every thing.

This is a shrewd persuasive turn, often employed by a lover of a superior rank to a mistress of an inferior one, to induce her to conceive chimerical hopes, and stun her reflections upon the consequences of the sly sap they serve him to carry on. Sometimes he joins to it the examples of some famous fools, who have thrown themselves away upon Pamelas, and winds up with some insidious praises of the beauty and merit of the person upon whom he is designing. This conclusion is generally very forcible: but before she determines, she would do well to consult upon the value of it, one of those numberless deserted damsels, who have been the dupes of their hopes from it.


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This is a shrewd persuasive turn, often employed by a lover of a superior rank to a mistress of an inferior one ,to induce her to conceive chimerical hopes, and stun her reflections upon the consequences of the sly sap they serve him to carry on.
A Dictionary of Love (1777)
A Dictionary of Love (1795)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Love-Letters, Billet-doux

There is no passion so writative as Love. The ill-spelt scrawl of the fair one beloved, is worth all the eloquence of Cicero. The great art of love-letters is to have none. They are not worth a farthing, when they are well, that is artfully, written. They should breath the pure unaffected language of the heart; and are not the worse for expressing the disorder of the passion that dictates them. Nothing is truer than that trite maxim, so finely expressed by one of our writers, and which I think we have already noticed,

“And nonsense shall be eloquence in Love.”


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Lover

A lover and his mistress, supposing them to be no novices, and to have seen the enemy, are two persons who think of nothing reciprocally, but how they may impose on each other; tell one another pleasing lies, which, by a tacit agreement, the parties accept as the most perfect truths, or of which they only obligingly doubt.


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…by a tacit agreement, the parties accept as the most perfect truths, or of which they only obligingly doubt.
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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Mad

Are you mad? is a term often used, with no very forbidding term, to an enterprizing lover, who has never more his senses about him, than when he seems to be so much out of them, as not to know what he is about. The truth is, that he only knows too well what he is about.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Marry

Most lovers, persuaded that he who marries is an enemy to his own repose, the betrayer of his own freedom, or a cully to his own desires, rarely employ this word but as a last resource.

After the ordinary declarations, a man worked up to a proper pitch, and who finds his fair-one deaf to any other proposal, has recourse to this word, or rather to some term equivalent to a promise of marriage.

Thus, I have no designs on you but what are honourable, signifies, “Since you exact so much, and I must give you hopes of marriage, this may serve to quiet your scruples, till this lure may give me moments of advantage.”

In the mean time, this plausible word covers their approaches, as the blind of fascines does those of the besiegers, till their mine is ready for springing, to blow up the virtue thus sapped to its foundations.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Money

A term of infinite power in the present modern system of Love. The possession of it alone confers the title of Lover, as it does that of a Lord. A bank-bill genteelly conveyed, beats all the fine things a Catullus or Tibullus could say. The English of it is extremely plain: “I leave to your needy younger brothers and officers, who live upon their commissions, the drudgery of courtship: I love an easy, ready pleasure. None of the vulgarisms of sighs, intreaties, and the like nonsense for me. See, will this suit you?” But remember we are in an age where nothing is given for nothing.


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“See, will this suit you?” But remember we are in an age where nothing is given for nothing.
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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Nature

Is one of those words, in which the eloquence of lovers shines with success. Nothing is more persuasively employed than the appeals made to it, against the rigid prescriptions of duty. Thus when a lover makes use of this trite argument: “Either nature is imperfect in itself, by giving us inclinations that the laws condemn, or the laws are justly accusable of too great severity, in condemning inclinations given us by nature.”

This profound sophistry means, “Since you have scruples, my game is to remove them. Reason may give itself what airs it pleases; but if you love me, nature will do the rest of my work for me.”


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No

Is a term very frequently employed by the fair, when they mean nothing less than a negative. Their yes is always yes, but their no is not always no. The air and tone of it determines the signification: Sometimes too the circumstances, a smile, or a look.


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Sometimes too the circumstances, a smile, or a look. The Fair one does not always wish we should take her at her word when she answers no
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A Dictionary of Love (1795)


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Nothing

It is a maxim in general practice, as well as in Love, that she who says nothing, gives consent. Silence is then a formal acceptance of whatever is offered. A fair-one pressed to explain herself, and who says nothing, says full enough. One must be a great novice indeed not to construe her in that sense: but when there is withal a tender, languishing look, a perplexed air that accompanies this silence, there is no doubt to be made of the energy and meaning of it.


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Oaths

In Love, are generally as false as counters, and like them are occasionally used to represent what ought to be the stake. True love is rarely lavish of them: it feels itself too real to need their enforcement, and delights in that Quaker-simplicity which defies them, and on the strength of which the Quakers call their religion Truth.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Obey

Is a word never to be construed too literally. Thus when a lover says, “I look on it as my duty to obey you: your will is my law.” He means, “I treat you as a sovereign in order to make you my slave. I fob you with appearances, that I may obtain realities.”

The conduct of most lovers justifies this interpretation.

There are moments in which a woman would be very ill pleased with a blind submission, and an obedience without reserve. Any lover, novice enough on those occasions to dread the fair-one's displeasure, would infallibly incur it. It is misconstruing her intention to obey orders pronounced only for form's sake, and on which she would have just reason to complain, if you was [sic] to act as if you thought her in earnest.


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…and on which she would have just reason to complain, if you were to act as if you thought her in earnest.
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…as if you thought her in earnest.

It is the only word so disgusting to the fair-one in the matrimonial service


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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Offer

I offer you a heart penetrated with the tenderest passion. Words of course that signify very little. I offer you my purse, not only sounds better, but expresses more sincerity.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Pity

One of the great avenues to Love. The women, naturally susceptible of the softer impressions, are most liable to this passion. They compassionate strongly those whom they see suffer: and it is a weak side, of which the men take advantage, who feign sufferings, to bring them to real ones. Pity then, like charity, should begin at home.


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…who feign sufferings, to bring them to real ones. Pity then, like charity, should begin at home
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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Plaintive

The style of lovers is ever a plaintive one. A lover is naturally a querulous animal. Complaints of one sort or other fill up the letters and conversations of lovers: and he has not always the most reason to complain, who complains the most.

What do you complain of? in the mouth of the Fair, signifies, “I have granted you all that decency would allow me to grant you: it is your business to take the rest.”


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

To Please

Constitutes the whole art of Love. It is one of those words that would be obscured by definitions. He who possesses the power of pleasing has every thing that is necessary to his success in Love.

I desire nothing but to please you, is equivalent to saying, I love you. See To Love .

At least tell me that I do not displease you, is a trap for an encouraging compliment, as for the fair-one to reply, “Who tells you that I am not pleased with you?” imports, that she is entering into a course of payment.


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To Please
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Pledge

Receive this pledge of my tenderness. This phrase, when it accompanies a present, signifies, “If you should have sense enough to see my drift; if you should be on your guard against my designs, here is something to keep off those reflexions: here is a quieting draught, for the watchful dragon of your virtue.”

If a superannuated mistress takes this method, it means, “As good an opinion as I have of myself, I dare not entirely trust the power of my charms: I am of an age that I must expect to pay for what I have, and atone for the deficiencies of youth and beauty.”

In this case, she resembles the Tyrians, who for fear their gods should leave them, tied them with gold chains.

Even a young mistress may use this expedient, and make a trifling present to a lover, backward in his offerings, by way of broad hint to him, to have recourse to this powerful battery.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Presents

A term of great power and energy, and, generally speaking, the shortest way for a lover to get to his journey's end. They are proportioned to the fortune and rank of the person upon whom the design is. A duchess may fall to a diamond necklace, and a chambermaid to a taudry ribbon. It has even been known, that a silly girl has been seduced by a dozen of stick-cherries. In short, the great art is how to adapt, place, proportion, and time them.


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In short, the great art is how to adapt, place, proportion, and time them well
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A Dictionary of Love (1795)


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Promises of Matrimony

See Matrimony

Without entering into a detail of the signification of this term, it will suffice to observe, that making them is one thing, and keeping them another.


Omitted text:
See Matrimony
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Qualities

It is not your beauty alone that charms me, but the divine qualities of your understanding and heart: it is your soul alone with which mine is enraptured. All speeches of this sort mean, “I find you are one of the sentimental ladies, forsooth! and on that foot you shall not want for some metaphysical jargon to dazzle and dumbfound you.”

But will these spiritualities pass? Yes, but with those alone who are spoilt by reading romances, or the double-refined nonsense of some modern French novel-writers.


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Quarrels

They are the common appendage of a love intrigue. Falling out and falling in again, give it a variety, without which it would be too dull and uniform. Quarrels are the zest of coquettes and professed gallants. Accusing and justifying, form a necessary diversion. Take away these grand movers, and you rob the sphere of love of its greatest activity. Love would stagnate in too great a calm: it is like the Pitterell who delights to live in storms.

There is even a moral reason for their quarrels: as neither side observes much fidelity to the other, they are apt to believe ill of each other; besides the policy of getting the start in complaining. Thence these reproaches, explanations, reconciliations, ruptures, and declarations of hatred.

In married life, the first quarrel is even dangerous: and, like the first step in life, decides of the future ones.


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Quarter

He must be a novice indeed, who does not know that when the fair-one cries out quarter, it is only a form of prayer to him not to shew her any.

Quarter is sometimes the debt of a superannuated lady to some petty-coat pensioner Adonis, upon whom she has no beauty to operate, but that of her strong-box.


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Reconciliation

Some reconciliations are attended with such pleasure, that it is almost worth making a quarrel on purpose, for the sake of the joy of a reconcilement. It is however dangerous to risk this practice so often as to stale it: for it may happen that the reconciliation may never come.


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Reproaches

See Quarrels

No word has a worse sound, or generally a worse effect. They are often used preventively, by those who are conscious of deserving them. They stale, when often repeated, and commonly defeat their own end. Many a passion has received its death-wound from them, for want of properly timing, or of skill and delicacy in the management of them. No maxim, then, truer than the following one, which is rhymed for the sake of its being easier retained.

    In Love, reproaches are but rarely felt,
    And always harden, where they fail to melt.

Omitted text:
See Quarrels
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Resistance

In love, as in war, is often only an art, in the governor of a place, to raise the importance, and obtain the honours of war, for a fortress from the first intended to be given up.

Women often resist in occasions, when they would not be very sorry not to be the strongest. The great art of resistance then is to push it to a certain point, equidistant from too great a discouragement, or too great a cheapness; by which means virtue is pressed into the service of the passions, not to subdue them, but to exalt the relish of them.


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Respect

True love never goes without respect: and its counterfeit is often obliged to feign it, till an occasion serves to throw it out of the windows.

I have too much respect for you, in the mouth of a sly prostrate engineer, signifies, “I know better things than to hazard freedoms, prematurely, before the way is cleared for them.”

In the mouth of a novice, it means, “I have too much bashfulness.”

There are occasions, in which the plain English of it is, “I despise you too much to tell you that I love you.” And this is generally addressed to those figures made to inspire rather a prudential respect, than rude desires.

Cruel is the situation of a woman treated with a respect, for which she is forced to blush, by the consciousness of neither deserving, nor desiring it.


Omitted text:

In the mouth of a novice, it means, “I have too much bashfulness.”

There are occasions, in which the plain English of it is, “I despise you too much to tell you that I love you.” And this is generally addressed to those figures made to inspire rather a prudential respect, than rude desires.

Cruel is the situation of a woman treated with a respect, for which she is forced to blush, by the consciousness of neither deserving, nor desiring it.


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Return

Pray make a return to my love, signifies, “Agree to believe all I shall say to make a fool of you.”

Can one love without the hopes of a return? This question is discussed under the article of Hope, which see. See Hope


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Rigour

This word formerly signified a hardness of heart, and insensibility, on which there was no making any impression. At present, it is the art of irritating the passion of a lover, of preserving the longer one's power, and of raising one's value or price upon him.


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Rival

There are few persons worth loving, with whom a lover must not lay his account with being plagued by Rivals. A Rival then is looked on as a sure card to keep a heart in action, to give it a new degree of vivacity, or to reanimate an indolent lover, whom it may be dangerous to leave in too great a security. Sometimes a Rival is made use of as a shoeing-horn, to draw another into matrimony. He is a sort of bank opposed to a torrent, in order only to augment its violence.

Rival is sometimes synonymous to out-bidder. A lady of the town is on the point of a treaty with a man of fortune: he thinks the terms high; he hesitates; he wants to beat down her price. To determine him, a rival is brought into play, who he is afraid will take his bargain out of his hands. At this, he is piqued in honour not to give up the point. He concludes upon the foot she at first proposed, and his charmer melts into his arms, upon touching the first quarter of her settlement in advance.


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Sacrifice

I Sacrifice to you my heart, my liberty, &c. This sacrifice is generally of no great importance, and is accordingly accepted for what it is worth.

To sacrifice an old mistress to a new one. Nothing costs a gallant so little, or flatters a Fair-one so much. Thus,

“I had a passion for Lucinda: I had inspired her with an equal one for me; and she will be desperately vexed at finding I sacrifice her to you.”

This means, “I know there is nothing of which you women are fonder, than being enriched with the spoils of another.”

But the sacrifice is doubly welcome, when it is that of her dear friend, and her rival in beauty. Thus, You reproach me with this conquest? Well; I sacrifice it to you: Can you desire more?

This means,“ I will use you one day just as I use her at present. Your vanity shuts your eyes to this certain consequence: but when a sad experience shall make you open them, you will have no reason to complain. Had not my conduct given you sufficient warning?”


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Scandal

After employing a thousand praises on the Fair one loves, scandal and detraction are what please the most. They are even received as implicit, indirect praise. Thus a lover who abuses, to his mistress, every woman of merit, and especially her dearest friends, proves himself to be a master of his art. It is one of the most leading avenues to a woman's heart, who always places to her own account whatever is detracted from another's.

The great Chinese moralist, being asked why he allowed scandal to women, answered, First, because it is impossible to hinder it. Secondly, because the fear of it from one another is an useful check upon their conduct.

And, in fact, the tea-table assizes form courts of judicature, the respect of which have kept many a woman from playing the fool.


Omitted text:

The great Chinese moralist, being asked why he allowed scandal to women, answered, First, because it is impossible to hinder it. Secondly, because the fear of it from one another is an useful check upon their conduct.

And, in fact, the tea-table assizes form courts of judicature, the respect of which have kept many a woman from playing the fool.


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Added text:
…whatever is detracted from another's It argues however, very mean talents in any lover who is at a loss to amuse his mistress, but at the expence of another's reputation.
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Severity

The art of appearing virtuous at a small expence. A serious deportment, modest looks, manners full of circumspection, an air that disconcerts a novice-lover, and serves for seasoning to an experienced one: a veil, under which the most refined coquettry is concealed. As this severity is often only matter of parade, it does its duty very ill in private. A fatal instant twitches off the mark, and in spite of all their precautions, the Fair have their unguarded moments: and whilst their tongues pronounce a negative, their eyes are in counter-sense to their words.


Modified text:
…and whilst their tongues pronounce a negative, their eyes are giving the affirmative
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Shame

Is one of their principal restraints, placed by nature and the world, to defend women by the apprehension of it, from doing silly things. A woman who knows her interest, will preserve at least the shadow of it, even in the instants she sends the substance of it a packing.

Are you not ashamed of yourself? said by a Fair-one, in certain circumstances, and with a certain tone, is a hint to proceed, which the shame would be not to understand.


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Sick, Sickness

I am sick with Love. Sure you cannot refuse to cure the pains you cause. — All this pretended sickness, and pain, never intrench [sic] an instant on the lover's pleasure. They never confine him to his room. He can, for all them, go to the plays, gardens, masquerades, and even to a bagnio. They are so little troublesome, that a lover would be sorry to be cured of this imaginary disorder, that amuses him so agreeably, and flatters so much the vanity of the women. In short, lover-sick and sham-sick are synonymous terms.

It were to be wished, that in the states of love there was no more real illness than of this sort; our youth would be less liable to disorders, that send them very seriously to consult the sons of Esculapius.


Modified text:
In short, love-sick and sham-sick are the same thing
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Omitted text:
…are synonymous terms. It were to be wished, that in the states of love there was no more real illness than of this sort; our youth would be less liable to disorders, that send them very seriously to consult the sons of Esculapius.
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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Sighs

Are useful interjections in the love-language. They are of special service to save the modest fair-one the pain of pronouncing those dreadful decisive words, I love you. They are very tiresome, however, when a languorous lover Vents only in deep signs him am'rous flame.

They are a very uncurrent coin, when employed by the men: thus, when a lover whines out, Cannot my sighs move you to pity me? he deserves to be pitied indeed!


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Slave

I am your slave; you use your slave too cruelly; signifies, “The more power I can make you believe you have over me, the more I shall gain over you.”


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Submissive

A submissive lover is a designing one: he plays the slave in order to become the master. All his submission and obedience only prove that he omits nothing that may pave him the way to absolute power in his turn. This is the old stale game, and not a jot the less successful for the being so.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Sun

All comparisons of one's mistress to the sun, the starts, &c. are out of date. They are all so hackney'd out, that even poetry rejects them. One modern poet indeed has lately ventured to compare his mistress to the Sun, because, like him, she was a common benefit, and shone on all alike


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Swear

I swear, I protest to you that I will for ever be constant; should never be understood but with the following restrictions. “So long as you afford me lasting pleasure, so long as you can amuse me agreeably, and preserve your power to charm me; for otherwise the implicit contract is, in fact, void.”

This is both law and practice in Love. As soon as the object ceases to please, the love-correspondence drops of course. A respect to oaths is treated as a chimæra; pleasure is the life-hold of Love: and when pleasure ceases to exist, the court of conscience absolves the lover of all breach of them. Sappho, in the midst of her plaintive elegies on the inconstancy of her lover, admits that the Gods keep no register of lovers oaths. She knew so much before, and yet was the dupe of them. Women should imitate the Romans upon an occasion, when a noted lyar made them a promise, which he confirmed by the most terrible oath, the whole assembly of that people answered it, by yet a more terrible one, that they did not believe a word he said.


Modified text:
The Romans when a noted liar made them a promise, which he confirmed by the most terrible oath…
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A Dictionary of Love (1795)


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Tears

Can you disbelieve my tears? in the mouth of the Fair, signifies, “Tears are the eloquence of our sex; they move even the most insensible; can you then be more obdurate than others?”

This is a snare from which it is hard for a lover to get loose: for the women have an admirable talent at shedding of tears. The Spaniards have a proverb, Lagrimas das mugeres valin mucho, y cuestan poco. The tears of women avail them much, and cost them little.

When men employ tears, they have a great pathos. Some, however, have them at command, in which case they mean, “Since words alone will not do, perhaps tears may take you by the weak side of compassion. No actor could play his part better than I am now doing.”

Note, that this recourse to tears is seldom used: First, because the cruelty that extorts them is now-a-days is pretty much out of fashion. Secondly, they favour too much of the whining lover, which is but an insipid ridiculous character. A point of love is now oftener carried by laughing a woman out of her virtue, than by crying her eyes out of it.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Tenderness

In the present system of Love, signifies especially the happy disposition of women to gallantry: Thus, when they say, You know my tenderness, it means, “I have too much vanity, interest, and self-love, not to keep you on the hooks with this bait. I should be sorry to lose an admirer, whom a profession of tenderness may keep on my lift.”


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Toilette

A woman may admit a lover to her toilette, when she is sure of the effect of her charms. It is like the artful confidence of a secret, one is certain will do one honour. When a woman suffers herself to be surprized at her toilette, it is as much as to say, “I have, as to my beauty, a clear conscience: it is all honestly my own: and I am the more sure of doing execution with it, for its not having the air of murder propense.”

But when it comes to that dismal time of its being a necessity to make a face, the dressing-room door is well bolted till the operation is over. There is no secret better kept by the women than that of the toilette: it is even better kept than that of their intrigues.


Variant spelling:
propense | prepense A Dictionary of Love (1777)
A Dictionary of Love (1795)


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Torments

Nothing can equal my torments, &c. This signifies, “There is in women a perversity, that makes them delight in thinking their lovers suffer a great deal of pain for them; and to tell them so, is taking them by their weak side: as to the reality, that is out of the question: but, as they are fond of such expressions, why not play them upon them? they deserve it.”

And, in this conclusion, the men are not quite in the wrong. There are none deserve less quarter, or fair play, than the tribe of teazers, for teazing-sake.

    They wrong their trust, who beauty misemploy,
    And turn to torment what was meant a joy.
    Ye Fair! who have from heav'n this gift receiv'd,
    Abuse it not: nor, by false pride deceiv'd,
    Affect a pleasure in a lover's pain,
    But court the merit of a gentle reign.
    Then if a wretch there is so void of sense,
    As to mis-use the favours you dispense,
    On him employ, relentless, every art,
    To soften or subdue the rebel heart:
    At war, with those who dare your triumphs brave,
    Humble the proud:— but spare the prostrate slave.

Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

To Toy

Love-toying, with delicacy and refinement, is the science of very few. It is the very sauce to enjoyment, and of course more relishing than the meat itself. It is the very girldle of Venus, which wives should, like Juno when she visited Jupiter on Mount Ida, know how to put on, upon proper occasions.


Omitted text:
To Toy
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Transports

I am no longer master of myself: I give way to my transports This said by a lover, whilst he throws himself at his mistress's feet, or tips her some other dangerous attitude, means, “Whatever impertinent caution your reason may suggest to you, I would have you rather believe my madness, &c.”

There is no entering into the infinite detail of all the effects, emotions, revolutions, that these affected transports may produce: be it sufficient to observe, that as they have a show of deliriousness, such as a violent fever exhibits, in a sick person, so when the fit is over, what has passed is as little remembered by the one as by the other.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Truce

Truce, I beg you, good Sir, with your compliments. This phrase used by a woman who is immoderately praised, signifies, “I am insatiable upon the article of compliments; the way to make you continue them is to plead modesty, which will furnish you a new topic upon which to praise me.”


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Ugly

How ugly you are! only signifies, that in spite of myself I love you, and your person is out of the question, so I can by make a conquest of your heart!


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Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Unconstant

You are an unconstant. This reproach, well weighed, signifies, “My self-love is more flattered by imputing to you a fault, of which I am myself the cause, than if I was to tell myself that I have not charms enough to fix you.”

The truth is, that unconstancy is oftener a misfortune than a crime. A lover cannot always help it. He is innocent, because he is passive in it. Not to deserve inconstant, if not a cure, is at least a consolation.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Undress

The Fair-one who meets her lover in a certain undress, or a studied negligence, shews plainly what she would be at. The olive-branch, or the white flag, are not more expressive signals in war, than this Undress is in Love. It speaks of itself, that she is not so streight-laced, that a ruffling would discompose her. The least experienced of lovers might feel that they have nothing but to take the field to make sure of their triumph. The victory waits but for their onset. A fair-one in this condition declares herself ready for the sacrifice to Venus. There wants nothing but the priest and the alter.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Unfaithful

See Unconstant


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Union

Can you deny yourself the pleasure there is in the union of two hearts? means, “I am drawing you the luscious picture of Love, such as it was in times of yore, that I may disguise to you the present state of it, which might not serve my purposes so well.”


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Unjustice

To reproaches of unconstancy, the answer often is, You do me great unjustice. The meaning of which is, “It is true, I saunter, I flutter from beauty to beauty; but why should you find fault with me? it is the way of the world. Would you have me set up for a reformer of it? Pleasure is my property; and I have a right to take my own wherever I find it.”


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Vanity

Has brought more virtues to an untimely end, than any other vice. A woman, whose vanity is hurt by the apprehended desertion of a lover, to keep him, will very often take the very step which will bring on that desertion; and, in the loss of her virtue, rob her of all real foundation for vanity for the future.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Verses

They were formerly in great vogue in Love: at present they are generally exploded. It is enough that a lover vents his nonsense in poetical prose.


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Virtue

In numbers of women, is no more than a regard for their reputation. A desire of raising the value of one's favours, and of inflaming, by teazing, the passion of a silly lover: the desire of acquiring esteem by resistance: the hopes of getting a husband: the disagreeableness of a gallant, his follies, or indiscretions: a natural coolness. All, or some of these, compose the essence of virtue in the greatest part of the women.

Who is the most virtuous of women? (says a modern author) she who by constitution is the most amorous, and by reason the most chaste.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Winning

How winning you are! The English of this I, How weak am I!


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Wish

I wish I could love you, in the mouth of a fair one, signifies, “I actually do love you.”

I wish I could hate you, signifies precisely the same as above.


Absence  Affliction  Agitation  Anxiety  Ardor  Assiduities  Attractions  Barbarous  Billet-doux  Blame  Boldness  Bracelet  Brisk  Burn  But  Caprice  Chains  Charms  Confession  Confidence  Constancy  Conversation  Countenance  Critical  Cruelty  Cruel  Cure  Curiosity  Dalliance  Death  Deceive  Declaration  Defence  Delicacy  Despair  Distraction  Eloquence  Empire  Esteem  Eternal  Exclaims  Faithful  Forsake  Gold  Grant  Gratis  Happy  Hate  Hatred  Haughtiness  Honour  Importunity  Interest  Jealousy  Jest  Kneeling  Languish  Lease  Leave  Level  Love-Letters  Lover  Mad  Marry  Money  Nature  No  Nothing  Oaths  Obey  Offer  Pity  Plaintive  Please  Pledge  Presents  Promises  Qualities  Quarrels  Quarter  Reconciliation  Reproaches  Resistance  Respect  Return  Rigour  Rival  Sacrifice  Scandal  Severity  Shame  Sick  Sighs  Slave  Submisssive  Sun  Swear  Tears  Tenderness  Toilette  Torments  Toy  Transports  Truce  Ugly  Unconstant  Undress  Unfaithful  Union  Unjustice  vanity  Verses  Virtue  Winning  Wish  Yellow  Zeal  TOP

Yellow

The yellow jaundice in Love. See Jealousy.


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Zeal

This term, more poetical than prosaic, signifies much the same as Love, Ardour, Passion, Flame, &c. to which we refer.